Post by flatearth on Sept 18, 2008 4:54:51 GMT
Hello everyone... this post might seem dense, but I'm just hoping to pull in a few responses and gather some stories of others' experiences with meeting folks for friends and relationships within (and outside of!) the Sikh community. I hope any responses aren't limited to just the men on the board - I believe the variety of experiences, both male and female, gay/bi/straight, can offer guidance in unexpected ways...
Anyway, I'm caucasion, I'm not Sikh but have (and have had in the past) Sikh friends. I'd posted a short ad here on the site and tonight I received an interesting response. While I'm not comfortable about posting it in its entirety, it has brought up the interesting issue of the cultural divide, either through nationality/national identity, race, or religion... And since I don't really have anyone else to share it with at this time, I hope to foster some constructive discussion.
The essence of the message was that I should not be here or try to meet a man in the Sikh community for friendship or relationship, and I "should just find a normal american guy". (The person who sent the message claimed to be caucasion, but anonymity provided by the internet along with the nature of the language leaves that claim open to interpretation.)
What are the first things we look for in a partner? Is it the initial physical attraction or physical attributes? A common cultural identity? A lifestyle or religious point of view?
Obviously the answer is a mix of these many things, but what are the experiences of others on the board?
Have you dated outside of these experiences/comfort zone? or even made friends with other people that are different?
I am not deterred by this note, but I am intrigued. Why discourage someone from becoming a part of this community?
I guess that's the most important question....
Thanks for reading...
Anyway, I'm caucasion, I'm not Sikh but have (and have had in the past) Sikh friends. I'd posted a short ad here on the site and tonight I received an interesting response. While I'm not comfortable about posting it in its entirety, it has brought up the interesting issue of the cultural divide, either through nationality/national identity, race, or religion... And since I don't really have anyone else to share it with at this time, I hope to foster some constructive discussion.
The essence of the message was that I should not be here or try to meet a man in the Sikh community for friendship or relationship, and I "should just find a normal american guy". (The person who sent the message claimed to be caucasion, but anonymity provided by the internet along with the nature of the language leaves that claim open to interpretation.)
What are the first things we look for in a partner? Is it the initial physical attraction or physical attributes? A common cultural identity? A lifestyle or religious point of view?
Obviously the answer is a mix of these many things, but what are the experiences of others on the board?
Have you dated outside of these experiences/comfort zone? or even made friends with other people that are different?
I am not deterred by this note, but I am intrigued. Why discourage someone from becoming a part of this community?
I guess that's the most important question....
Thanks for reading...