Post by tarankaurmocneeded on Feb 7, 2014 10:03:42 GMT
Hi, I m 25 yr old female, from chandigarh looking for a jatt sikh guy for MOC because I am in Love with a man but can't marry him because of some social issues. I am looking for Moc. I have no terms & conditions except " No physical contacts"... if belong to JAtt sikh then please do share your views...
When the matter comes to marriage about their daughter, and when the daughter says that “I have someone in my life and I want to marry that person and he is not of same cast as we are”,
Then parents will naturally say that:-
“We have a good reputation in the SAMAJ”
“We will not accept any other samaj’s guy in our SAMAJ”
“We will cut off relation with you if you marry that guy”
“We have done so much for you and you are showing us this day”
“Our SAMAJ will not accept this and not even us”
“we care about our SAMAJS happiness and our reputation that we have earned since so many years”, and so many other giant statements that are totally stodgy.
Here is a story of a girl X & Y her Love ,
The girl X is from a Sikh jatt family, when her parents started finding a perfect Guy for her marriage, she had to tell her parents that “I am in love with someone and I want to marry that guy and will not be happy with anyone else, and I want your blessings for this”.
Knowing that her parents are orthodox and will not accept this, her first problem was how to keep this statement in front of her parents so that it does not create a bad impression of her guy in front of them,
So it’s better for you to ask once about this to parents rather then regretting later.
But the thing is that girl love her family very much can’t even think of going against her family and can’t even think of marring someone else. So she currently in a hell situation she knows that parents will not agree and don’t even want to go against them but One hope always there.
She is not the first one to do this many have done and living happily As our Own guru ji said that All are equal .
After dead when a person soul exist from body then it will reach to god then they are not titled by the CASTE but their KARAM (GOOD DEEDS) So is it really too much impossible to marry someone
She just imagines the situation many times:
She went in her parents room, said “I WANT TO TALK TO YOU SOMETHING IMPORTANT “,
They said “YES”
Then she said OK, THE THING I WANTED TO TELL YOU IS, THAT THERE IS SOMEONE WITH WHOM I WANT TO GET MARRY AND I WANTED YOU TO KNOW ABOUT THIS AND I WANTED EVEN YOU TO ACCEPT HIM ,AND I KNOW AND HAVE FULL CONFIDENCE THAT HE WILL KEEP ME HAPPY ALWAYS.
Then her father will say IN THIS CASE I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ACCEPT HIM, ITS NOT POSSIBLE, I WILL NEVER SAY YES FOR THIS, WE WONT SHOUT AT YOU NOT EVEN FORCE YOU, ITS YOUR LIFE, ITS YOUR DECITION, YOU HAVE TO THINK WHAT YOU WANT, IF YOU ONLY WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY THN YOU DO EVERYTHING ON YOUR OWN, I WILL NEVER SUPPORT YOU.. I WILL ALSO NOT DO LIKE WHAT OTHERS DO, I WILL NOT SUPPORT YOU,I WILL NOT KEEP RELATION LIKE OTHER KEPT WITH THRS DAUGHERS FAMILY ..I WILL DO WHAT I THINK IS GOOD.. MY DECISION WILL BE THE SAME…
That’s it ……… after this what will happen god knows
Always think of telling them but don’t have enough guts to speak a single word
All these years’ parents do everything to keep their daughter happy and when she asks for the real happiness from them, it’s a big NO with them to give her.