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Post by veer on Jun 11, 2009 14:17:07 GMT
Hi,
Do you agree that for a gay Sikh there are only three ways of life:
1. Arranged marriage with dual life
2. Marriage of convenience with dual life
3. Being out with losing family and community
What do you think about that?
Is it even more difficult for a Keshdhaari or an Amritdhaari or it's hard enough for a clean shaven too?
What could be a solution and how can an out gay Sikh reach respect and acceptance from his/her own people?
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Post by Jazzy on Aug 3, 2009 23:47:12 GMT
Hey, you missed number 4... 4. Be true to yourself and dont ever give up on ur family. Jaz  |
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Post by veer on Sept 22, 2009 13:03:52 GMT
What do u mean by that?
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Post by veer on Sept 23, 2009 9:59:30 GMT
It is so easy to say but i dont think it is that simple without any emotional support. Especially for someone being raised up in a Punjabi family.
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Post by veer on Sept 23, 2009 18:09:20 GMT
Please let me decide what kind of emotional support i need.
Punjabi families may be similar to other families but there must be a reason why majority of Gora Gays are out and most Punjabi Gays are not.
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Post by veer on Sept 23, 2009 21:20:16 GMT
Well i am not talking about myself. Basically my opinion is based on the experiences of my friends and all the Gay Sikhs i know, mainly Keshdharis. They are really "having so much trouble and confusion" and these things can not be solved just like that by some good advices. These are really deep and tough problems for them which makes them suffer a lot. And the family reactions go to all extremes from acceptance to hatred but usually quite negative.
The biggest challenge is that many guys want to come out after they were forced into a marriage and they realize it is not going to work and they are going to be unhappy and unsatisfied for their whole life so they want to run away but its too late.
Awakening after Anand Karaj makes it extremely difficult for them and for the whole family. Especially for GurSikhs.
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