INTERRACIAL DATING

[goramonasikh]

Curious on what are your thoughts about dating "white guys" (i always thought Punjabis were white ) still do but OK..

[Wolf]

I'm a non-Sikh who looks white and I want to date a Sikh man

[sikhgal]

Do you mean guys as the male species or guys in slang term as in general male/female?

What do you mean by thinking Punjabis were white?

If you are asking as an Asian person dating a non Asian, I’m a Sikh woman (Punjabi) 3 months away from marrying my “white” (being the original skin tone under her tan!) girlfriend... when dating or falling in love with someone you should like a person for who they are and not the color of the skin.. each to their own at the end of the day... I don’t pass judgment or have an issue with interracial dating.. love & beauty is in the eye of the beholder – and they come in all shapes, sizes and colors!

[veer]

I do not understand people who chose their partners based on their colour. This is just so far from my way of thinking. We can all prefer certain type of looks but at the end of the day we should focus on personality rather than looks or skin colour. You can be attracted to people from a certain ethnicity but that is only a physical aspect and it does not guarantee you will find your other half in that particular group.
According to Sikhi there is no such thing as colour or race however it is very rare to see a Punjabi Sikh to date or marry a Gora but i think this is about culture rather than religion.
So relating to the title of the thread i fully support interracial relationships as long as they are happy with each other.

Actually if you are interested in the subject i can strongly recommend you to read the book "The English Patient". This is much better than the movie with the same title. The book is much more focusing on the relationship between a brave Sikh soldier in World War Two (Kirpal Singh) and a white nurse (Hannah). It is a wonderful love story and shows that for a true Sikh colour really does not matter.

[goramonasikh]

@ EVERYBODY Thanks for answering!!
@ Veer awesome reference imma haf tu watch that movie
@ SIKH GIRL <---just meant every body ....wish everybody think like you>>>
@thewolf
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And YOUr SERIOuS >>>

[veer]

You can watch it and you may like it but the book is much better than the movie as the book is focusing more on the Sikh guy while in the movie he is just a supporting character unfortunately.

[jaylondon]

There are a number of Punjabi Sikhs who are in relationships with non-Asians, but they tend to keep their relationships hidden from the prying eyes of their relations and the community at large.

Even in India, you often see Punjabi men marrying Nepalese women, although that is to a certain extent akin to 'mail-order brides' from Eastern Europe and the Far East/South East Asia marrying white English men.

Interracial marriages happen more often than not, and it has nothing to do with religious identity, although it does have much to do with cultural baggage. For more famous examples, look at Gurinder Chadha, Archie Panjabi, and Parminder Nagra.

[yorkie]

My attraction to a Sikh Punjabi guy (I'm white British) was to him as an individual. Of course, I saw the turban first but then it was the whole package that counted...not just his race or very identifiable religion!!!

[veer]

Unfortunately most of the times it is not like that. Most white guys i mean those at least consider Sikhs as a possible partner tend to look at them as an exotic sexual experiment rather than a person or as you said a whole package. I have a friend who lives in a country where there are no Sikhs at all so he can only meet non Sikhs mainly white guys. He said most of them are not interested in him at all and the rest only wants to try what it`s like doing it with a turbaned Sikh.
I know some Sikh guys being in a stable relationship with a white guy so i do not want to generalize but no one should be so sure that dating a Gora definately make things easier for a Punjabi Sikh gay guy. I mean not necessarily.
I can only repeat myself ethnicity doesn`t matter personality does.

[yorkie]

Thanks Veer & I agree with you, certainly dating a Gora does not make things easier. Interesting in what you say about being looked upon as exotic, I'd put that down to unfamiliarity & in some ways it can be used as a positive, but it will soon get irritating if that happens a lot. I have straight Sikh mates here in London who play on that 'exotic' theme with girls from other parts of Europe. They have a ball..that's what they want at the moment. Problem with a lot of the Gay scene is the emphasis on the mainstream look of the body, fashion & youth..so if you don't have that 'look' then immediately there's rejection. I'm sure that a tall, good-looking, smart Sikh would get just as much attention as someone from any other background. Problem is finding someone who actually cares for you as an individual, it's the same issue for everyone.

[veer]

I don`t understand why people want to be accepted at the mainstream gay scene...
I would not change anything about myself to please them or to be accepted by them. Actually it is the last place i would go to to meet people.

[goramonasikh]

HMM MAINSTREAM USA GAY People are scary with Their little hairstyles and that voice>>>and MAN BITCH Attitude It s annoying ...

[saihaj]

At one time in my naivity, I would have simply stated that love is love, whatever the race.

However in these days of rampant political correctness where so many indigenous British people feel it is an acheivment to have an ethnic partner or a 'brown baby' to prove how 'right-on' and 'cuwl' they are [Im reminded of that episode of AbFab when Edina found out Saffy was pregnant with a mix-race child, stating 'it' was this seasons most sought after 'accessory'], I would certainly be very cautious dating outyside my own ethnic or cultural group. Political correctness has created a reverse form of racism that is just as nasty as old forms of racism, often raising the needs of minority communites far above that of the majority population IMHO and such 'positive' inequalities will only lead to even greater problems and stress within any relationship - and of course, within the ethnic minority populations there is still the suspicion that a 'white' indigenous partner may also be a status symbol and be regarded as simply a way of raising ones social standing and acceptance in the wider community.

However much we may wish to deny the huge influence that culture has on the personality of each individual [1st five yrs of a persons life is very influential at forming the individual personality and psyche] unfortunately the differencers are often too large to overcome either on a personal level or even a wider social level - however I have also seen some interracial/cultural relationships survive:), but few and far between and usualy because one person is more willing than the other to give way to the other.