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Post by confusedbird on Jun 12, 2010 17:15:32 GMT
Hi eveybody. I'm newq to this site. Found it through a search engine. I'm confused about my sexuality. I had physical intimation with guys but with gals, its a path never treaded. But here that's not a problem. I'm 27 now. I recently had a crush on a celebrity. I know its not a thing that normally happens in my age group. But now I can't think anything else apart from that guy. He's a punjabi sikh actor Karan Wahi. I can't come out of it. I know that I won't ever het a chance to meet him,but my heart doesn't understands all this. It just thinks of him. I stopped watching his shows and other stuff related to him, but can't stop myself for a longer duration. I cry a lot at nights, because of gay curse and this problem. for me. being gay is a curse. And I wanna come out of it by any means. But I guess there no way out. But atleast You guys can help me with this celebrity crush, then I would really be thankful to you. I'm seeing a counsellor(psychologist) at present. But it is not helping me a lot. Please advise if you can come up with some solution. Thanks
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Post by neptune on Jun 22, 2010 13:42:41 GMT
I do not understand why you would be upset, there is no need to cry. Such feelings happen, and eventually you will move on from them. I know it does not seem like it at the time, but they always do. It is an unrealistic crush on someone, trust me, many people have them. Concentrate on your life, eventually as time passes, your feelings for that particular celebrity will as well, the thoughts will become less intrusive as time passes. When it comes to your sexuality, you do not need a psychologist. Only you will know who you are, and what you feel. Such feelings should not bring tears, it is a reality that you must eventually accept or else you will spend your life in a never ending struggle with yourself. Being homosexual, bisexual or transsexual is not a problem. It is not something that needs to be fixed, or can be fixed. It is who you are. www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Crush
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Post by mrsingh1991 on Jun 24, 2010 21:28:23 GMT
hi im a trainee psychologist and i just read ur post, and what ur feeling is perfectly normal i went through the same thing with a different guy the healthiest way to over come it would be to take it one day at a time every time u think of him take a walk do some physical activities (you know what i mean tidy up the house fix something exercise ; ) ......) as for seeing your sexuality as a curse thats not healthy in any way you really need to come to terms with who u are it will probably be the most hardest thing u'll ever do (beside’s getting over this guy) but trust me once you u will feel so much better!!!!!! if your seeing a psychologist now remember you dont have to listen to him always get a second opinion
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Post by ssukh28 on Jun 25, 2010 9:55:26 GMT
Are you a sikh confused? If you are then you should know that there is nothing wrong with being LGBT. You should read some of the information on this site. Even if you don't see a psychologist, you may want to contact some people for some support. There are various organizations such as Gay Men's Health who could help you out.
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Post by confusedbird on Aug 8, 2010 20:02:12 GMT
Hi Pals. Thanks a lot for your help and support. I now have somewhat coped with the problem and started accepting me as I'm. Still I know the road ahead is not gonna smoother for me. Now the next thing is coming out to my parents who are nearly ignorant about it or try to behave as ignorant. God help me and give me strength to do this. Once again thanks a lot. cheers.
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Post by Jalebi Girl on Aug 14, 2010 10:12:55 GMT
I just wanted to thank everyones supportive comments towards the original poster of the thread. It's very tough for each of us to deal with our sexuality whether it be gay, bi, heterosexual, transexual and so on. All we can do is trust in our instincts and try to do the right thing for ourselves. We can try to make others happy, those who we love the most, including our parents and family but it is we who have to live with the consequences of our actions. Just take a deep breath and know that your life is unfolding as it should. As for celebrity crushes, we have all had them. Personally I thought I was going to marry Karina Lombard (Marina from the L Word) for a number of years
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