Traditional marriage vs. same sex relationship

[summer]

Hi,

I just wanted to get peoples views on this....

I am torn between getting married to a man, or having a long term relationship with a woman (i am female).

The same sex-relationship may be more unstable, less support, maybe more chance of splitting and being alone in old age and i think a traditional marriage would have more support, be more stable and i would be looked after more in my old age.

Do other people think about this stuff? And if so what do you think??

[gurjeet99]

Hi, r u actually in a long term relationship with a woman???

I always think, wateva makes u happy!!!

Theres always gonna be struggles in life, but if u stick at it, u will know in ur heart that u made the right choice!!!

i think about theses stages all the tym!!!

u may want to think about the other person, if they cant accept u for hu u r, then wats the point!!!

i was about to get engaged but i stopped my parents....due to the fact that i knew in my hear that i cud never make the other person happy...i cudnt ruin an innocent persons life.

i hope that was a bit of help!!! lol x

[summer]

Well, i am seeing a woman and it could go long term, if i carry on with it. I just dont know what is the best thing to do, i think whatever decision i make, i may regret it...

Also, i am concerned that if i do have a proper relationship with a woman (maybe get married and have children), i could lose my family over it, or if not, have people constantly putting my parents under pressure by gossiping... And my parents are not well, and i know if they get ill, i will be accused of making them ill...

Do people actually post much on this site?

[walkers]

Hi Summer I can relate to what u are saying, as I have been thinking the same thoughts myself...not that I have made a decision over the last few months, but if it makes your happy or its the path you want to take in life. But whatver you decide, you may have regrets either way, you won't know until you have decided and lived it.

[ssukh28]

You have to do what makes you happy!! If you're a lesbian then the answer is obvious, isn't it?

[Jalebi Girl]

In an ideal world we'd like to ensure our family is happy as well as our well being but ultimately it is you that has to live with the consequences of your decisions in life.

If you feel capable of living a content life with a man then so be it, but if you have an overriding desire to spend your life with a woman perhaps you should explore it and give it a chance. I know some very happy lesbian couples who went against all odds and proved everyone wrong. Remember your parents will not always be around so you will be left to live your life accordingly.

Try not to worry yourself over it too much and always trust your instinct. What is meant to happen will happen. Everyone has their kismet.