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Post by sexysingh on Mar 21, 2008 1:59:47 GMT
I was 12 when i first realized i was gay. It was a "hard" time for me. My question is, is it okay to be sikh and experience multiple partners, or should I not be having sexual realtions with other men and just marry one that i love.
Btw we should all create a group, and have singles meeting nights somewhere in London. This would give us a sense of security and give us the chance to meet new people.
Navreet Singh
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Post by robiszoo on Mar 21, 2008 6:41:34 GMT
Navreet Ji,
I think opinions are different about this.
If you follow Sikhi you should definitely not go into one night stands because promiscuity is based on lust and you know what Sikhi say about that.
Personally i don't believe in one night stands. For me these things are so far from quality life. Non of promiscuous people are really happy. Stability is missing from their life and they use sex unconsciously as a substitute for everything they don't have. But this is an illusion. This lifestyle is taking their soul as time goes by and only emptiness remains at the end. On the other hand one night stand relationships can cause a lot of problems in your life that can not always be solved. What can a one night stand add to your life? Nothing but stigmatized diseases...
Life is hard enough for most people here i think. Being Sikh and gay at the same time is not easy. There is no need to make it even more difficult as a result of lustful life. For me it is not a question that one night stands can not take the place of marriage based on mutual love and respect. Even if it takes a long time to find the right one for it. Anyway I'd rather live my life alone than having sex with numberless strangers i would never live with.
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Post by jaylondon on Mar 25, 2008 18:19:25 GMT
Hi Navreet.
My view on one night stands is different. It's about personal choice. If you find yourself attracted to someone who is in turn attracted to you, and you are both going into the 'one night stand' with that in mind, then there is nothing to stop you as long as you're safe.
Consensual casual sex is fine in my view, although it can be a destructive force. I agree with Robizoo in that it is an unstable lifestyle, but one should not judge the actions of others. If you are content with that instability, then you should be free to do so as long as it is consensual.
I know that many of my friends who are or have been in long term relationships met their partners through a 'one night stand' - for them, lust has developed into love. It doesn't always work out like that, but there is good scope for a short term fling to develop into a loving, nurturing relationship over time.
A 'one night stand' and a long term relationship are two distinct things, just as lust and love are. Just because you enjoy doing the one, it doesn't mean that you're incapable of the other or vice versa.
However, in my view, the ultimate goal would be to have a long term relationship. Love is a far more poweful emotion than lust, in that lust is extremely shortlived.
I hope that helps.
Jay Singh
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Post by sunny on Mar 27, 2008 3:02:16 GMT
I was in a situation today where as i could of had a one day stand BUT didnt yea it may have been fun and maybe released some tension but the consequences of it would be tragic
when you breakdown your barriers and show no strength it will fall into other areas of your your life including future long term relationship ,its not just two people having consenual sex .. God is aware of our actions as well
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Post by robiszoo on Mar 28, 2008 2:48:14 GMT
The question was "is it okay to be Sikh and experience multiple partners?" I think without judging anyone the answer is simply NO. I mean if someone consider himself a Sikh cannot settle down for promiscuity as a chosen lifestyle.
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Post by sunny on Mar 28, 2008 3:32:31 GMT
okay Mr.come correct was just viewpointing... thats all... really the whole question makes me wonder is he HIGH???
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Post by junchurassi on Apr 3, 2008 0:23:22 GMT
hehehe both are saying the same thingh ..lol.. but i agree with sunny ..its more of being a right human as 'GOD IS AWARE OF OUR ACTIONS' but another thingh he has said right is that it affects ur longterm strength ...at the end of the just merely being a kesdhari wont make u a sikh unless ur from ur heart strong and humble
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Post by kamallarosekaur on Nov 1, 2008 16:18:29 GMT
Blessings,
The way to be a True Sikh is to establish a personal relationship with Guruji. Take a moment and ask Guruji's opinion. Don't assume you KNOW what guidance you will receive. Just ask and consider what Guruji is telling you, one situation and one hukam at a time.
Guruji doesn't actually teach that lust is bad in the way I feel you are asserting. Guruji teaches that all people have lust, rage, greed, pride and attachment hardwired into our bodies (we are monkeys). Guruji teaches that it is only by GRACE that you will find your way. For Sikhs that GRACE happens when you spend time with Guruji's Words. You don't have to control yourself, Guruji will do that for you in His own time and way. If you simple talk to Guruji every day - ask your question and read the answers and contemplate on the guidance and give it a try; then Guruji will do the rest. You can relax and rejoice.
Every person you meet comes directly from the Beloved One. Your whole life movie is being broadcast from the Diivne One. Life isn't meant to be easy. We appear to be being constantly tested.
Guru Arjan 236
Those who implant the Word of the Guru's Shabad within their hearts cut their connections with the five passions. They keep the ten organs under their control; their souls are enlightened.
They alone acquire such stability, whom the Beloved One blesses with Mercy and Grace.
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2011 20:04:00 GMT
Are there amithari singhs on here from Birmingham would like to make friends
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Post by SinghSatnam on Jul 12, 2011 1:04:11 GMT
Navreet Ji, I think opinions are different about this. If you follow Sikhi you should definitely not go into one night stands because promiscuity is based on lust and you know what Sikhi say about that. Personally i don't believe in one night stands. For me these things are so far from quality life. Non of promiscuous people are really happy. Stability is missing from their life and they use sex unconsciously as a substitute for everything they don't have. But this is an illusion. This lifestyle is taking their soul as time goes by and only emptiness remains at the end. On the other hand one night stand relationships can cause a lot of problems in your life that can not always be solved. What can a one night stand add to your life? Nothing but stigmatized diseases... Life is hard enough for most people here i think. Being Sikh and gay at the same time is not easy. There is no need to make it even more difficult as a result of lustful life. For me it is not a question that one night stands can not take the place of marriage based on mutual love and respect. Even if it takes a long time to find the right one for it. Anyway I'd rather live my life alone than having sex with numberless strangers i would never live with. Guru fateh jio, I m fully agreed with u and i m also wanna life alone whole life without a gud partner then doing relation with multiple guys.
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