between my faith and love

[sarbat]

Hi all, how are you ?
i wpuld like to know your opinions and suggestions about what happening to me now.
i am an amritdhari sikh guy, who lives in an area who do not know Sikh, just few of them knew it and care.
Of course i have long hair, beard and all, and honestly i really proud of my Faith and Guru Ji, thats why i took amrit few years ago.
But my beard and mustache did not grow up neatly and its look really bad. Sometimes i feel embarrassed by my appearance, especially when i have to meet clients and have a lunch together and do my projects presentation (can you imagine that i have to eat nicely or i had to fix up my mustache so it will not go into my mouth and that is soo shameful).
I am working as an architect and i meet alot of people, most of them asked me to trim my mustache or beard but i just dont want, not because i want to keep this untidy facial hair but i want to keep my promise to God and Guru Ji.
And now another chapter in my live, as being a gay is something hard here i have to really
Careful choose someone to be my partner. I met few guys, but ended up with same reason. They left me because of their disagreement with my appearance and to be honest i am (untidy hairy guy) is not local taste.
Just few weeks back, i met someone through grindr and he seems very nice to me and well he likes same music as i do. But again he came up with same questions, why i have to keep my untidy facial hair. If i want to keep beard and mustache he suggested me to do it in neat way. Well, i told him about my condition, and he seems understand but now im not feeling good of myself with this appearance.
I am quite tall around 180cm more, not fat and average body shape. I have tried to follow some style like "singhstreetstyle" but its just not good in me.
I do not know what to do. I love Guru Ji and to be honest i want to keep my promise to Guru ji and wont broke it. But i have to realize i wont get any partner here if im still look this way, and also some clients may not like it (mostly the rich mommys that want to have good interior house, they wont let an untidy guy to design their house even if im more smarter then the stupid tidy designers). And now i can say that im in good and blessed condition where i have quite alot of projects and i feel like it is a blessing from Guru Ji.
So please guys help me, give me your opinions and tell me what to do.

[Mandeep]

Hi Sarbat,
I have unshorn hair, beard and turban and I am proud of that. First thing is that you should be more confident about your looks yourself and then only let others tell you anything about your appearance. I heard this somewhere, "The world will shwocase you, the way you portray yourself." I am in retail customers service. Every other day people ask me about my beard and turban. I have one thing to say that these are part of me. I believe hair to be gifts from the Almighty 'coz only males have it and I am proud of it. And my faith asks me to cover my hair at all times. They do understand and respect it. I have many teenage customers and mostly guys who appreciate my looks. It takes courage to be different in a world where everyone looks the same. I have flowing beard and I wear a turban. Sometimes people mistake me for a Muslim and explain them politely that I not. One day a guy asked me that if I am not Muslim, who am I and what do I believe in? My reply was simple. I believe in one God and He is everywhere, in you, in me. He was impressed with that.
As far as you profession goes, the only thing matters is your work. Your work would speak for itself. If someone likes it, they will hire you. So, professionally concentrate on your work. You can tuck your beard in with some hair gel product if you want. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. Just believe that. Tidy your hair if you think they are untidy in any manner. Put some oil on your beard that will make it shiny.
Many guys like hairy guys. And I am telling you this because I have met many of them. So keep looking until the one who likes you for who you are comes along. Start going to the gym if you are not already.Your looks doesn't mean just your face but the whole body. And everyone loves to be with gym toned guy.
Good Luck
Regards
Mandeep

[SinghSatnam]

wjkk wjkf and SSA,
pehli gall eh hai tusi apne aap nu kina samjhde ho te like karde ho. bcz je tusi apni look aap hi nhi pasand karde ta dujeya de bolan nal tuhanu effect hovega. the second thing Jo tusi pyaar ja bf Di gal kiti dekho true love o hai Jo tuhanu as it accept kare ja apne aap nu Sade according sometime adjust kar lave. par jithey eh nhi ehve karo ja eh nhi beard open rakho ja bano means banda personality labhda not lover. pyaar de gurusahib di Anmol den hai Jo bahut mushkil nal naseeb hundi.
even I m a amritdhari Sikh guy sometime beard banda te maximum open it.

[sukh]

Hi all I am belong to sikh family and living in delhi my Boy friend is pure sikh guy he has have full beard and mustache and he is also belong to same religious.... I LOVE him alot and we are together since 6 year ... i like only pure sardar guy so please dont feel embarrass...you should proud dude you are a sikh guy I am a example for your dude dont worry you will get your better half soon... Sardar guy also hot and sexy dude...