Post by jaatdikuri on Jun 17, 2008 23:02:02 GMT
So I'm going to be 33 in a few weeks time and I've taken some brave steps, providing freedom that most of my sikh brothers and sisters would envy.
I came out to my parents whilst at university that started a 7 year exile from my family and culture that I call my "wilderness years".
I am now reconciled with my family (for 5 yrs - and yes I made the first move), and have attended my younger sisters and cousins weddings (I was the eldest). Besides I got my degree and now I got Masters YAAR!!!
The relationships I have now with parents, grandparents and all those that were ever close (i.e. not just aunties/uncles at the gurdwara) are of a quality and depth that I never imagined possible.
That doesn't mean we talk about it... in fact that's probably the only thing that we don't talk about!! It's part of my life that's mine alone. Being single it's easy to deal with right now.
But the thought of introducing a partner or talking about children that I may have still terrifies me rigid... then I remember I've done this before (bared my soul and been brutally honest) and have always been rewarded (even if took a while and more effort on my part!!).
The question and indeed purpose for this post is: I've taken the decisions, I've dealt with the consequences and have learned my lessons, so:
Where are you all? Am I the only one? Has no one else of Sikh origin followed this path? (find that hard to believe - I'm not that great!!) Am I destined to be with gori kuri (because they are the only lesbians I meet!!)... always explaining the word/joke/reference/idea etc?
I want/need someone who gets this... not a girlfriend or lover or partner... just a friend to whom I don't have to explain and can talk my mixed up punjabi'ish (that's Punjabi and English mix innit) to?
Where are you? Are you out there and more to the point do you have the gumption to reply and get in contact?
If you do reply to the post.. if you're more daring reply to me directly: firstname.lastname@example.org