Post by mancladjay9 on Mar 16, 2014 10:23:58 GMT
Hey Simplyme
I can kinda relate with you in the context that i was once engaged at 19...it broke of due to family stuff, but i was in that frame of mind that i cannot get married to a girl. I'm Gay... and for me to marry an innocent girl, i am putting her life at risk as well as mine. I am destroying lives.
At 21, Whilst i was at uni, i had moved out for a year. telling my parents that i need to learn some life experience and not always depend on my mum. but inside, i knew it was the time to tell them the truth. Like you, i did not want to hurt my parents and my siblings, but what else was i suppose to do?
7 years prior, i knew what pain i was going through, and i could not take it any more. I told them , and they disagreed and argued with me, they interrogated me until they came up with an ultimatum. Be with the family, and do what the family says, or be gay and get out of our lives.
I turned around to them. after not saying a word for about 5 hours. I said "I love you all soo much, but i cant change who i am. I'm gay, and will always be."
I walked out in the middle of the night. and stayed round a friends, i went to uni the next day, and i found out that my brother was ringing all my friends to find my whereabouts (He had my Phone). I told my friends to ignore the calls, until one of my friends picked up and was informed that my mum had collapsed and was in hospital. i rushed there and saw my mum...she turned around, and said, Never leave me.
Im 25 now, and i have a great relationship with my parents, My mum and dad have just recently come to terms with me being gay. and i believe its the best thing to do. For yourself.
At the end of the day... only YOU will be living YOUR life.
I can kinda relate with you in the context that i was once engaged at 19...it broke of due to family stuff, but i was in that frame of mind that i cannot get married to a girl. I'm Gay... and for me to marry an innocent girl, i am putting her life at risk as well as mine. I am destroying lives.
At 21, Whilst i was at uni, i had moved out for a year. telling my parents that i need to learn some life experience and not always depend on my mum. but inside, i knew it was the time to tell them the truth. Like you, i did not want to hurt my parents and my siblings, but what else was i suppose to do?
7 years prior, i knew what pain i was going through, and i could not take it any more. I told them , and they disagreed and argued with me, they interrogated me until they came up with an ultimatum. Be with the family, and do what the family says, or be gay and get out of our lives.
I turned around to them. after not saying a word for about 5 hours. I said "I love you all soo much, but i cant change who i am. I'm gay, and will always be."
I walked out in the middle of the night. and stayed round a friends, i went to uni the next day, and i found out that my brother was ringing all my friends to find my whereabouts (He had my Phone). I told my friends to ignore the calls, until one of my friends picked up and was informed that my mum had collapsed and was in hospital. i rushed there and saw my mum...she turned around, and said, Never leave me.
Im 25 now, and i have a great relationship with my parents, My mum and dad have just recently come to terms with me being gay. and i believe its the best thing to do. For yourself.
At the end of the day... only YOU will be living YOUR life.