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Post by simrandaleh on Feb 27, 2012 10:46:11 GMT
Hey guys,
I'm a gay sikh from punjab belonging to a really conservative family(duh...). My parents are deeply religious. I'm planning to come out to them on my coming birthday (aug 3). Any suggestions about how to approach them?? And pls don't suggest like- "make them sit and then tell". I need a more easy way for my approach.
Thank you.
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Post by Jazzy on Mar 8, 2012 22:51:15 GMT
Hey Simran, I got to say... there is no "easy way" to tell your parents your gay!! There are some good leaflets on sarbat.net... maybe that could help you explain things to your parents and help them understand. It may take time for them to understand but you have to be persistent and do not back down!! I would advise you not to tell them on your birthday because you may not get any presents...  lol x |
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Post by simrandaleh on Mar 9, 2012 18:22:40 GMT
Lol i don't want one. All i want is their acceptance. At first, i thought about coming out to my elder brother first, but we are not close enough to each other. He spent all of his teen years away from home in a boarding school, so, we never get to talk much with each other. So i gave up on this idea. Anyways thanks for the comments guys. :-)
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Post by notsure on Apr 2, 2012 21:28:17 GMT
im in a similar process atm. and i am slowly trying to introduce homosexuality into my parents view..like over dinner i try just mentioning it or about somebody who is gay....and now gay or lesbian is a household word! my parents now know that its quite common...x
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Post by simrandaleh on Apr 6, 2012 5:57:06 GMT
Well...then i guess its good but the problem with indian families is that you can't discuss such topics within families. We have a mentality resembling the people of 17 th century england and thats really sickening :-(
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Post by amrit on Apr 14, 2012 1:38:22 GMT
Simran
Sat Sri Akal
Congratulations on wanting to come out. I wish you well.
Check out this link. It's not bad. It's not Sikh centred but good nonetheless.
Make a plan. Have a place to go to if you need to for a bit after.
These things take a bit of time to digest. Unfortunately, we have to educate them about this.
I think my parents took about 18 months to work it out and up to then it was quite hard.
It's best not to come out for their acceptance though of course I understand that we all want some of that acceptance. Instead, accept yourself fully and some! And come out for your authenticity sake, where you share some important information about who you are with people who are important to you. Don't open yourself up for their approval coz the you might not get it!
With best warm wishes of love - X
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2012 10:56:34 GMT
Be careful who u tell too as iv lost alot of friends. They had this thing that ppl will think they are too if you seen together. Best of luck ji
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Post by lovesikh on Apr 15, 2012 13:40:20 GMT
hello,my friend.plz allow me to say that it is not very good to come out as u are in india...
u have to marry under the force of parents?if so,and u dont wanna cheat your potential and wanna to be good guy,come out. if u wanna live a proper life,boring and surpressed ,dont come out....the best solution is to live in the west...plz consider my suggestion
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Post by simrandaleh on May 2, 2012 14:02:39 GMT
well... thank you guys, for your opinions, they mean a lot to me :-) So, i've this plan to come out to my parents. I've prepared a document on my notebook pc and I've written all my thoughts about me being gay and all that stuff. I'm planning to copy it to my dad's laptop and just make him read it. I'm just waiting for a perfect moment to do the task. :-)
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Post by summer on Jun 23, 2012 19:25:20 GMT
How did it go?
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Post by simrandaleh on Aug 12, 2012 13:03:07 GMT
I postponed it. IDK why but it didn't felt right  so, the new date is oct 11 on national coming out day  |
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Post by mancladjay9 on Aug 23, 2012 1:40:02 GMT
Hey peeps!!!!!
I've actually told my family that i'm gay less than 2 years ago (after my 21st bday)!!! it wasn't the easiest thing, infact i'd rather have done exams all my life...lol!!!
I just knew i had to tell them, because i knew i wasn't being true to myself!!!
It had to be done!!!
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Post by sarbat on Nov 15, 2012 12:18:11 GMT
Hey peeps!!!!! I've actually told my family that i'm gay less than 2 years ago (after my 21st bday)!!! it wasn't the easiest thing, infact i'd rather have done exams all my life...lol!!! I just knew i had to tell them, because i knew i wasn't being true to myself!!! It had to be done!!! Hey mancladjay9 , how are you ? its nice to know you could open up to your family. GBU.. add me on msn or whatsapp bro.. |
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lol x
so, the new date is oct 11 on national coming out day 